The breakup letter I never planned on writing.
Dear Anxiety,
Being free from you is one of the greatest blessings of my life. Seriously.
I know you tried so hard to keep me with you, to keep me playing small under the guise of “protection.” I see now how you convinced me that no one liked me so you could have me all to yourself, how you told me that being around too many people was dangerous when, really, it was just hard to control.
You made me believe that staying in friendships, jobs, and environments that felt “safe” was the best choice—when in reality, they made me small, quiet, and uninspired.
You invested so much into making sure I would never see you for what you really were—a wound. A wound from all the times I was hurt. A wound from all the times I let myself believe I was too much or not enough.
And you know what? Band-aids weren’t enough. It took serious healing to get you gone. You had to open up and bleed all over my life before I finally took you seriously. And now? I don’t need band-aids anymore.
To be honest, you were never even that great. I don’t know why I put up with you for as long as I did. You were like a toddler driving my car down a busy highway while I desperately reached for the wheel. And you weren’t even taking me where I actually wanted to go—you were just loud, aggressive, and so convincing.
But now? I have my hands on the wheel.
Now, I look you in the eye and demand my power back.
I allow myself to feel deeply and desire great things.
Every day, I wake up and move closer to the life of my dreams—and I’m not scared.
I’m not scared someone is going to break into my house in the middle of the night.
I don’t spend all my time worrying about whether people like me or agree with me.
I tell my truth. I go after what I want.
You were a terrible partner, and this letter is my official notice: I will make it my life’s mission to help others get out of this toxic cycle with you. I will keep getting the help I need, using the tools I have, and learning from my mistakes so that you lose power over my friends and my community.
The days of you manipulating me are over.
So delete my number and get the hell out.
—Me
And now, I want this for you.
Because I know what it’s like to wake up already exhausted.
To overthink yourself into the ground.
To feel like fear and anxiety are just part of who you are.
But I also know what it’s like to break free. To take your power back. To wake up one morning and realize—I’m not scared anymore.
And that’s exactly why I created this free masterclass—because no one should have to stay in a toxic relationship with anxiety.
Breaking Up with Anxiety – Be So For Real
Live on Zoom | March 27 | FREE
Save your seat here.
Because this can be the moment everything shifts.
This can be the day you stop letting anxiety run the show.
And this can be the start of something so much better.
I’ll see you there.
With love,
Ady